• 13 years and counting

    “Why do you like me?”

    “We do not complement each other. We amplify each other.

    When you are not around, I’m not less than who and what I am because I am still me. But when I’m with you, I become so much more. I don’t have to turn into someone else that I am not when I’m with you — that’s why I said that you do not complement me because I’m never “less than” without you.

    With you, I can just be… Me. And so much more.”

    Happy anniversary, dear.

  • So. I know I was mightily late for this, but to be fair, I was on sabbatical: 3-month of paid leave (sabbatical) from April to June. A perk given to Automatticians when they have worked with the company for 5 years. Trust me, I avoided opening wordpress.com during those three months, because that’s what you get when you are working for a product that you also using in personal life, hahah. I really don’t want to be reminded of work.

    (I did peek several times and pleasantly surprised seeing the editor UX/UI changes. Good job, team!)

    So! The trip. Back in March, my sister-in-law married in London, and due to time and fee constraints, only Ari visited. That said, we (Ari, me, and the kids) visited them on the next month: April.

    One thing for sure: Never trust the weather in the UK — This is something that my fellow UKmatticians have warned me about, but I never thought about it seriously because:

    1. “Come on, it’s April. It should be Spring, right?”
    2. Ari told me that the weather! Was! Great! In! March! It! Was! Sunshine! All! Around!

    And these, friends, are two reasons why you don’t trust Q1 of the year. You know what? Don’t trust the seasons. Climate change is real.

    Manchester is located in the northern part of the island, and gosh dangit, it feels like the wind is cackling as it breezes through my ears. I never thought I could curse the weather even more than the ones in Denver (IT WAS OCTOBER. IN DENVER. LIKE. WHY.). To remind you all here, I hissed at the hotel’s automatic door as it opened, bringing inside a gust of Denver’s icy cold wind into the lobby, when a USmattician who happened to be a local Colorado walked up and said hi to me while wearing baggy knee-length shorts.

    Despite the wind, I freaking love Manchester. The city is vibrant, thanks to dozens of universities and colleges there, with international students and people bringing their cultures and colors. Thanks to that, the city is not lost in having some of the best traditional food, lovingly brought by people coming to the UK. Go to The Piccadilly Street Food Market, and you can find one of the best palak paneer there. I really love seeing the red brick buildings (I also noticed the same thing in Denver) — and I love how it seems like it has become a “norm” in cold cities to have red brick buildings. The warm color of red gives such a beautiful contrast and warmth to the surroundings.

    “Right now, I am finding life quite difficult. If you are too, just know you are not alone.”

    Another favorite part of Manchester is their city mascot: WORKER BEES! I love bees, and at first, I thought the bee was the mascot of our hotel because I kept seeing the bees around the hotel (we stayed in the Holiday Inn), but my confusion and curiosity grew as I saw the bees even far from the hotel. A quick Google search informed me that Manchester has set bees as their mascot since 1842.

    During our time in Manchester, we visited Old Trafford and took a stadium tour. Even as a non-Manchester United fan (cue my husband gasping in horror here), I found the tour really fun and educational.

    All smiles in front of the Old Trafford

    After Old Trafford, we also visited Manchester’s Science & Industry Museum. Manchester was one of the forerunners of the Industrial Revolution, and I love how the city simultaneously felt the pride and acknowledged the effect of the Industrial Revolution on places outside the UK and colonialization. In fact, I think Manchester deeply felt that — the richness and advancements they had and enjoyed were at the cost of other nations and tribes, and they took great care and pride in acknowledging it and put the credits where it’s due.

    Like, how many museums do you think would be so openly talk about slavery, how it affected their country’s wealth, and at the same time, causing pain to others?

    Next to that sign was this exhibit, and on the paper displayed there, you can see the list of cotton plantation slaves to sell at that time (1855.) Yes, you read it right. It’s as if the museum wanted everyone to take a hard look at themselves, technological advancement, and its cost to humanity and nations across the globe. I remember a couple of girls standing next to me in front of this exhibit, and as they read the list, they gasped and exclaimed, “It’s as if these people were cattle! This is so wrong!”

    We need more museums like Science Museums group ✨

    We also made an impromptu visit to Manchester Art Gallery. Like the Science & Industry Museum, the Manchester Art Gallery has been vocal in voicing out displaced people’s fight to live, people of color, women, and minorities’ rights.

    I legit yelped, “WHAT DO YOU MEAN A REGISTERED NURSE IS “LOW SKILLED”?” when I saw this

    It was only in February that those now hailed as “key workers” were labelled as “low skilled” or “unskilled” by Home Secretary Priti Patel – something that Manchester designer Craig Oldham has highlighted in a new poster that celebrates their contribution to society, not just during the Covid-19 crisis but in future, too. — Designer Craig Oldham creates a typographic poster to show solidarity with ‘key workers’

    The gallery also holds some classic works, and one of my favorites is this:

    More about the painting “Katherine of Aragon and the Cardinals” can be read here

    On the exhibit information card:

    Here we see the English and Papal Cardinals threatening her with the disgrace of a public trial if she did not consent to a divorce. Katherine was a staunch Catholic and would not agree. In order for Henry to get his way and remarry, the Protestant Church of England was established, causing centuries of religious turbulence.

    I just love Katherine’s face here, like, ugh, you go girl.

    Speaking about Manchester, who could forget Alan Turing Memorial? I found it really poignant to have the statue of Alan Turing sitting in the middle of a quiet small park in the Gay Village. You would love it, Alan Turing, sir.

    After Manchester, we headed to London by train. It was a 2-hour train ride, and I was in awe seeing the landscapes changed from cities to villages to green pastures, then back to cities.

    Remember what I said about unpredictable weather? Yes, Manchester was pretty moody — in a sense that yes, we did have some sunny days, but expect rain and drizzles at 4 PM.

    London? London was that emotional friend with a pint of ice cream, Netflix, and a rant how their ex is horrible.

    It was a glorious day when we visited the Big Ben and the Thames.

    Then, as we walked, Rey quipped, “mom, is that… Ice?”

    “Huh?”

    Plink.

    Plonk.

    Plonk.

    It was a hail. I know what hail is, I even heard stories on how some cities in Indonesia got hail despite our location as a tropical country. But dang it, a hail? In April? In London?

    We ran to shelter ourselves from the hail, and as if it never happened, in just mere minutes, the hail stopped and the sun came back out.

    As Ari crossed “Old Trafford” from his bucket list, I, too, crossed an item from my list.

    Sherlock Holmes Museum.

    I won’t say much on this. Let’s just say it was 29 years of dream. Sobbing and crying in the corner.

    (Yes, I set the image to be wide width, with border AND shadow just because. If I could add confetti and sparkles that pop off and glitter whenever you scroll this image, I would.)

    We also visited Science Museum in London, and just like its counterpart in Manchester, Science Museum in London showcase the importance of diversity, inclusivity, and knowing where we came from and how we achieve things up to this point.

    The museum also had a special exhibition dedicated to the development of game industry: Power Up! In it, we can see how game consoles developed, even playing it!

    … it was the golden era of TV sales…

    Since the museum is located in the Exhibition Road where there are multiple galleries and museums located, we also took the chance to visit Natural History Museum. You can see a statue of Darwin on the top of the staircase, welcoming the visitors.

    I also visited Victoria & Albert (V&A) Gallery nearby. I said “I” because the kids and Ari went back to Science Museum since Wira wanted to buy some stuff from the museum store. Museum store is our Achilles’ heel.

    In the gallery, I was so surprised to see an old friend of mine.

    I’m familiar with the bust of Helen of Troy above. When I was a child, I had this encyclopedia book on legends and myths, and there was this picture of Helen of Troy, this exact same bust, with a caption: “The face that launched a thousand ships”. I remember I looked at the picture and thought she looked so pretty, especially with the nose, and wondered how she felt during the Trojan War.

    When I saw her on the gallery, I abruptly went, “hey girl!” It feels weird, to feel so familiar yet so strange of something.

    Some of my favorites too:

    On the left, “Truth and Falsehood”.

    Here, Truth tears out the double tongue of Falsehood and pushes aside the mask concealing his grotesque features. His serpent-like tails are exposed beneath the drapery.

    On the right, “Valour and Cowardice”. Both of them are a set, made by Alfred Stevens (1817-75), for the Duke of Wellington. As the info card mentioned, “… Stevens devoted much of his career to this monument but sadly did not live to see it installed.”

    Another one here might be familiar to fans of Greek mythology.

    “The Rape of Proserpina” (a.k.a. Persephone). On the info card, the names mentioned are Pluto and Proserpina since the reference is Roman mythology — while in the Greek mythology, it’s Hades and Persephone.

    I also found an exhibit that, for me, super interesting as it shows how an artist is affected by their current culture and background (and there was no Google at that time! It was hard to find out what happened on the other side of the world, let alone hundred of years ago!)

    This is a part, yes, a part, because the actual exhibit/trapestry is HUGE. The exhibit is titled “Tapestry from a set of showing the Trojan War”. Now, with our current knowledge of Greece and Trojan at that time, we might able to say, “oh wow, the people in the tapestry looked so European!” That said, it’s also interesting to note that, as the info card mentioned:

    The popularity of the story is largely because rulers and noblemen saw the characters and their deeds as models for their own behaviour. The sumptuous 15th-century costumes worn by the figures in the tapestry emphasise this sense of identification.

    (Although honestly, had three ladies came to me and asked, “Who’s the fairest?” I would nope-ed the hell out of it ASAP.)

    Other than museums, we also took a stroll in parks. We checked the weather app closely during our trip to ensure we visited the parks when the weather was great, hahah. Just like how I got the honor of seeing the season change when I was in Sapporo in autumn, I, too, had the honor of seeing spring flowers blooming to welcome the Spring.

    We also took a stroll in the Covent Garden and the Theatre District.

    We closed the trip to another visit to Hyde Park (yes, we visited this park multiple times. This park is so pretty!)

    Thank you, Manchester and London. Also, please follow Dean Franklin on Instagram (deanfranklinmusic), he sang Coldplay’s “Yellow” here.

  • A lady

    Hyde Park

  • London Old Press

    Old Press is a community started in Ukraine as a way to capture memory old-style.

  • Hello, Dian! Can you share a bit about yourself — your name, the city you are currently living in, your hobbies, anything!

    Hi, my name is Dian Ara. I’m a freelance content writer, and I currently living in Bandung, West Java, Indonesia with my husband and our 4-year old son.

    I’m obsessed, obsessed, with stationery — especially Japanese stationery and notebooks. I mean, my wardrobes only consist of half of a kiddie-sized wardrobe and four pairs of shoes, while my stationery collections pile up inside four extensive wardrobes, four IKEA Sockerbit boxes, the big ones, and all of them are filled with my notebooks, sketchbooks, covers, sticky notes, pens, and washi tapes. Also, a dozen IKEA Skadis filled with colored markers, two drawers filled with stickers, and six more filled with hundreds of gel pens.

    The best part: I use them all 😆

    What made you interested in journaling in the first place, and since when?

    I grew up with my aunt, and when I was in primary school, she introduced me to the best stationery brands that she owned.

    A lot of children at that time — and still even up to now, I guess? — were quite satisfied and opted for colorful-looking pencils and scented erasers. Remember those? Hahah. A lot of those stationeries were quite cheap and fun-looking too.

    Mine, though, were far from “fun”. Inside my pencil case, there were only plain-looking pencils and a black eraser. That said, those were, and still are, my pride and joy. The pencil, a Tombow MONO, was blacker than the blackest sea in a moon-less midnight. The eraser, from Mitsubishi Boxy, was the top of its class — you know that too, right?! That eraser can erase your sin, hahah. The eraser erased any mistakes or scribblers without ripping the paper. Little Dian always smiled whenever she’s checking her worksheet. Also, my handwritings are really neat since I was small, and it brings me joy whenever I see it.

    That said, I started journaling as an adult. It was when Ryder Carroll introducing bullet journal system back in 2013. He published this really cool stop-motion video with him showing how to do rapid logging and migration in a Moleskine notebook. It looked so simple and easy, it immediately clicked with my ADHD brain. Since then, I use bullet journaling and adapt it with my ever-growing needs.

    I remember when I shared with you my interest in doing journaling, you recommended me bullet journal! How many journaling methods that you are familiar with?

    Alright, sooo… This is just my theory, so take this with a grain of salt.

    Depending on the content, there are at least 5 types of journaling:

    • Long-form journaling, or as we usually called it as a diary,
    • Art journaling,
    • Scrapbooking,
    • Junk journaling, and…
    • Personal organizer — including bullet journal.

    And, if we want to classify it based on intent, that would be unlimited. It’s because the whole idea of journaling depends on what you want to do. Your intentions. The most common ones are travel journaling, gratitude journaling, gardening journaling, dream journaling, commonplace book (this is the type of journal/book where you can write facts or information that you want to log), and many more.

    We can combine both: A travel journal can be in long-form, art, or junk. The same goes with the other types of journals. It’s up to the journal owner and the sky is the limit.

    As an individual with ADHD, how did journaling help you?

    Oh, whoa, alright, my journaling journey has been through a lot and with so many changes. So many. The reason, the journal adapted with my ever-changing needs.

    For example, this year (2024), I’m doing long-term planning in this app Things 3. My very short-term planning a.k.a. daily logs are in my pocket-size Moleskine notebook. This Moleskine notebook only filled with a combination of daily log and time log, and several collections pages — a really simple book.

    That said, the Moleskine book has been instrumental in helping me with my daily tasks: My daily log consists of 2 pages — the left page is for time log, and the right page is for my daily log. Every morning, I choose important tasks from my Things 3 app and I wrote them down on my daily log spread (right page). Then, on every hour, I set the task I want to do. However, instead of listing down all tasks in one go, I’m doing it incrementally. Hour 1: “What do I want to do in this hour?” — then, I write it down on the time log (left page) then do the task until 1 hour is up. I continued with Hour 2: “What do I want to do in this hour?”, and so on and so forth. This method helped me to avoid feeling overwhelmed and stay focused with important tasks.

    This is the spread in the middle of the day
    …. and this is the spread in the end of the day. Notice how the entries are filled up to the evening-time

    How many notebooks that you actively and regularly use?

    … … … … Six notebooks.

    • Leuchtturm1917 for copy-pasting information that I got from my social media timelines (trust me, there are some good tips out there).
    • Leuchtturm1917 for long-form journaling where I wrote about daily life and positive thoughts and opinions.
    • A small repurposed notebook that I made from several other notebooks that I no longer use (a.k.a. I scavenged them) for long-form journaling that skirting on negative thoughts. I usually wrote in this book whenever I feel sad, anxious, or scared. I planned to burn or throw this book once it’s finished.
    • Hobonichi Weeks as a health journal. This book is filled with my family’s medical records and trackers. I set this up to make it easier to grab whenever we need to visit ER.
    • Midori MD as a commonplace book. This book is filled with information and things that I found interesting and useful, and the resources can be from anywhere: Social media, books, Youtube, online courses, chatting with friends during tea time, etc. I planned to give this to my son when he grows up as a life guidebook.
    • … Aaaand, the Moleskine that I mentioned above 😄

    This is from my personal experience: There are times I found that journaling can feel monotonous, especially when the tasks/to-do list are the ones that you routinely do on daily or weekly basis. Not only this made me feel lazy in journaling, it also made me wondering if journaling is even needed. What do you think? And have you ever had that kind of situation? How do you cope with that?

    Let me start with this: Being diligent in journaling is a myth.

    I have ADHD and bipolar disorder, and there were times I literally couldn’t do anything. When I’m on my depressive episode, I could stay in bed, bundled with a blanket, and do nothing for a couple of weeks. And that’s okay. You don’t have to journal. You are not in your top condition, and it’s okay to not journaling.

    After my depressive episode ended, I simply turn over a new page and start journaling.

    That said, there are a couple of tips you can try, though!

    • Put the notebook in the area where you usually around/within your vicinity. I put mine on my workdesk because I spend most of my time working in front of my laptop. If you are a stay at home mother and you found yourself hover around the, say, kitchen for most of the times, then put your notebook on the kitchen area.
    • Decide how many times you want to journal on a day and set reminders on your phone.

    In the end, your journal your rule. There are times you wanted to do long-form journal up to 5 pages. There are times you only wanted to write, “I feel freaking tired” and nothing more — and that’s okay! Your journal is your tool (more on that later!)

    I found starting a new spread, be it monthly spread or a new notebook, can be really intimidating. Like… I always have this thought, “I HAVE TO CREATE A SUPER PRETTY SPREAD!” and I got frustrated when I made a mistake or typo. What do you suggest to have a more chill attitude in approaching journaling and creating a new spread?

    Set your mindset (ha!): Journaling is a tool to help you, not an end product.

    What kind of tool, you might ask. It’s a tool to help you create products: Feeling content and secure to have your bills paid on time, feeling happy and confident that you were able to finish your projects on time, feeling the joy of able to hold your focus in the daytime so you can have extra time to chill and spend with your family.

    Can a tool get broken or missing? Yes. And you can change or even replace it.

    With that new mindset, let me share with you the practical tips: That ugly spread that you see as a mistake? Cover them with washi tapes and stickers 😆

    All you have to do is to cover, or you also “hide”, the whole spread with washi tapes, then turn over a new page to start the new spread.

    Hiding the “bad” spread with washi tapes. Ha!

    My first journal looked exactly like this — filled with mistakes and washi tapes to cover them — and that notebook looked so gosh dang pretty.

    Colorful!

    Any tips and suggestions to those who wanted to start journaling/just started journaling?

    Start simple, embrace the mistakes, and enjoy the process. And if you are slightly perfectionist, note that a handwritten journal is prone to errors. When mistakes happen (and trust me, it happens!), remember my tips about mindset above.

    Happy journaling!

readme.txt

This is my personal blog, so anything goes. This blog has been around since 2014, which means you would, and could, see my past writings with different perspectives and mindsets at that time. This blog is a record-keeping of what I was, what I am, and what I will be. What I wrote in the past might not reflect who I am right now, nor me revisiting the topic.

While things here are generally PG-13, I must remind you that I’m an adult, which means some topics might be too heavy for younger readers.

Listening