• “Like a giiiii~iirl~”

    Yesterday I dropped off my son at his school and while waiting for the school’s door opened, we sat with this little boy and his mother. This boy loves Big Hero 6 so we started to talk about the characters.

    And this boy said, “Wasabi screams like a girl! It’s sooo funny and stupid!”

    I actually felt sad and died inside.

    “Do you think it’s a bad thing? Screaming like a girl?” I asked him.

    “Yeah. Mom told me that.”

    It was his answer.

    And you know what? It makes me PISSED OFF. It makes me effing angry because there it is, a mother, a WOMAN, actually telling her son that screaming like every other normal person, like HER, in this planet is WRONG AND BAD. I was like, “WTF?”

    I ain’t gonna tell Wira that “screaming like a girl” is wrong. I ain’t telling my son that “throwing like a girl” is bad. Effing hell, have you seen Mo’ne Davis? She THROWS LIKE A GIRL because that’s what she is. A GIRL. I scream like a girl when I’m angry BECAUSE THAT’S WHAT I AM. A WOMAN. A FEMALE. Why being somebody that I actually am is a bad thing? I can’t help it if I’m a woman because I’m born this way — and mind you, that’s not a bad thing. Not a bad thing at all. Just like my son was born as a guy, and you dear readers, as you were born as a girl, or as a boy. That’s not a bad thing at all.

    And you know what? There will be times when you might re-thinking about your gender. Maybe you’ve been told by people that you’re a princess, but then you decided to be a prince. Maybe you’ve been told by people that you’re a knight, but then you thought that you’re actually a damsel. THAT’S NOT A BAD THING. You are what you are. Being a boy is awesome, being a girl is super great.

    So throw like a girl. Throw like a boy.

    Kick like a girl. Kick like a boy.

    Scream like a girl. Scream like a boy.

    Because that’s what you are.

  • Those who smile the brightest are usually the saddest

    This Is What Depression Really Looks Like

    I’m glad that we finally able to accept and see that depression is there, you know. I’m glad that people now are able to talk about it and actually being helpful about it. I’m glad that some big websites such as Buzzfeed here are talking about this because this is important.

    Just yesterday I jotted a thought on my Path.

    Mendadak kepikiran.

    Selama ini Wira dilatih kalo menjawab pertanyaan, “how are you?” dengan jawaban, “I’m fine. Thank you.”

    Iya, itu sekedar basa-basi dan sopan santun saja.

    Tapi gw jadi kepikiran, kalo mungkin itu ngebikin jadi… Apa ya, meremehkan keadaan pikiran kita?

    “How are you?”

    “I’m fine.”

    Padahal mungkin nggak baik-baik aja. Bisa aja kita lagi sedih, lagi susah, lagi tertekan — tapi atas nama “sopan santun” kita menjawab “gw baik-baik saja” supaya orang lain ga perlu ikut merasa simpati.

    Dan gw rasa itu yang membuat orang-orang yang depresi jadi lebih tertekan.

    You are expected to answer “I’m fine” and be bloody fine with it. While you are not. You are not fine, for God sake. You feel trapped, dazed, sad, and you don’t know where to go. And you don’t know how to express it unless people will see you as “over-reacting”, “dramatic”, “gloomy”, or “emo”.

    Gw rasa gw harus ngerubah pertanyaan dan jawaban gw ke Wira. Gw belum tau apa dan gimana; tapi gw ga mau anak gw membohongi dirinya sendiri dengan kalimat, “I’m fine” hanya karena sedari kecil dia dilatih seperti robot untuk berkata begitu.

    If you feel really fine, that’s really nice. I hope you will enjoy the rest of your day.

    If you don’t feel fine and need somebody to talk to, hey, I’m here, all ears, and zero judgment.

  • Technical Update (?)

    Jadi kemarin saya install plugin WP-IG di blog saya ini (dan, ehem, ini buatan teman saya, Fikri Rasyid) yang fungsinya adalah sinkronisasi konten di Instagram saya dengan blog saya ini. Jadi ketika saya update akun Instagram saya, otomatis blog ini juga ter-update.

    Sebenernya sudah beberapa hari ini saya kepikiran untuk mengaktifkan kembali blog ini dan mulai “mundur” dari social media — paling-paling hanya Path dan Tumblr yang aktif. Saya sendiri di Twitter juga sudah nggak terlalu aktif dan Facebook juga hanya lihat-lihat. Saya beberapa kali mampir di blog-nya Matt (pendiri WordPress) dan saya lihat sepertinya dia menggunakan blog-nya seperti social media. Tapi saya akui, saya nggak tega kalau menghapus akun Instagram saya, hahaha. Ada saat ketika saya hanya ingin mengambil foto dan benar-benar malas untuk mengetik, hahaha. Jadi plugin WP-IG itu cukup menolong, dan kalo kalian melihat archive blog ini mendadak “meledak” sampai tahun 2012 (padahal saya baru menggunakan URL ini akhir tahun 2014), itu ya karena konten dari Instagram saya ada di blog ini.

    Dan seperti biasa saya rewel untuk urusan tampilan, jadi ganti lagi deh layout blog ini, hahaha. Sebenernya saya agak jengkel untuk urusan themes di WordPress karena beberapa yang kurang fleksibel. Ada yang secara warna dan layout itu bagus dan rapi, tapi font yang digunakan nggak pas. Saya pribadi sebenernya kurang suka dengan font yang tebal — saya lebih suka font yang tipis dan kecil (waktu saya masih nge-blog di tahun 2004an, saya paling suka pake font Verdana 8-9 px atau Verdana 7-8 pt) Semoga saja WordPress versi baru bisa integrasi dengan Google Font, hahaha. Jadi bisa pilih-pilih font sesuka hati dan sesuai selera.

    … Errr, dan saya baru nyadar kalo theme Typo ini nggak ada fitur Featured Image.

    Update. Ganti lagi ke theme Fictive.

Nindya’s quick blurbs

  • A month too late, but I just stumbled upon IKEA France’s Tiktok video, hinting a possible collab with Animal Crossing. Unfortunately, no further information about this other than IGN picked up this news when the video was posted.

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